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Jealousy

Posted by PlanetGrok on February 10, 2010

So you finally have a woman that you love and cherish and want to be with for more than a few lays. Good for you. But your work has only just begun.

If you want to keep her, keep her jealous.

The natural order of things is for the man to be of higher status than the woman. Men are stronger, smarter, and more objective. (While this may sound misogynist, women wouldn’t have it any other way. ) Women have evolved to spend most of their years caring for young. To do this, they need a dominant man to support them.  The problem is, dominant men are in high demand because other women want their genetically supreme ball-juice too! How a woman competes with other women for a dominant man is a topic for another post. For now, recognize that your woman biologically perceives your ability to cheat on her as one of the signaling factors that establishes your dominance, and thus your desirability.

Never let a woman make you jealous. If a woman mentions anything about some “guy friend”,  casually mention that your ex-girlfriend reached out to you yesterday and you’d like to meet her over a cup of coffee to reminisce. If you let your jealousy show, then you have biologically communicated to her that you need her more than she needs you. That is a recipe for disaster.

The one exception to the “never show jealousy” rule might be if you have been too much of an asshole, and she is feeling completely unwanted, which is not healthy either. She may tell you, while you are spooning her and she is pretending to be unreceptive to simulated reproduction,  about some guy that is hitting on her. She wants  you to show that you value her in some way. The best response I have found is to casually mention that you’ll either kick his ass or slap her silly. The nonchalant mention of primal violence inflicted on lesser males or herself will give her gina tingles and you should be able to hit it. But again, this sort of thing only works on a dejected woman who is not really talking about a male friend, just making something up to gauge your interest in her.

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5 Responses to “Jealousy”

  1. Asian Game said

    Disagree. Jealousy is a horrible, ugly feeling and I hate the space I’m in when I’m jealous. I’ve left men solely over this issue – being jealous and hating the non-zen state it put me in.

    Regarding mentioning an ex-gf right after your woman talks about another man: women are smarter than that and will without a doubt know you are making it up because you are jealous but trying to make her feel jealous.

    If you want a stable, relatively drama-free relationship, jealousy is not the demon to summon, believe me.

  2. PlanetGrok said

    Not intense jealousy. Just more of a knowledge that you are a good catch with options.

    Women always claim on the internet that they are able to see right through what men do, but apparently I’ve never met a single one of those commenters. It is easier for women (and men) to be objective on the internet than in their own relationships.

    I do expect that any man-to-man advice will have a chorus of females claiming that they would see right through such blatant manipulation. That’s ok, but not really true.

  3. Asian Game said

    Yeah but this is too obvious:

    “If a woman mentions anything about some “guy friend”, casually mention that your ex-girlfriend reached out to you yesterday and you’d like to meet her over a cup of coffee to reminisce. ”

    And this:

    “If you let your jealousy show, then you have biologically communicated to her that you need her more than she needs you. That is a recipe for disaster.”

    …You’ve ALREADY communicated that you are jealous by talking about an “ex-gf” right after she mentioned the “guy friend”.

    Now THAT would be a recipe for disaster…… it just wouldn’t work. She’d laugh at you.

  4. PlanetGrok said

    Not if you do not display the emotional signs of jealousy. That’s what counts. Keep that shit bottled up.

    And even if a woman recognizes it as a blatant play for jealousy, that does not mean she won’t get jealous. When a needy female sticks her boobs in our faces in a blatant play to get us aroused and more malleable to her demands, our recognition of the manipulation attempt does not keep us from being aroused.

    The “other options” threat does have to be legit. I guess if the guy is a nerd with no friends or exes to speak of it wouldn’t work at all.

  5. Thus Spake She said

    “other options” threat wouldn’t work for MOST guys. Most women know the men they are with are lucky to have even gotten her.

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